A Man Called Ove by Frederik Backman-Book Club

A man called Ove and reading glasses

Another great book club meeting, but this time with mixed reviews for our latest read; A Man Called Ove by Frederik Backman.

This book came highly recommended, but no members of book club gave it an all-star rating. We all felt similarly that there were aspects of it we didn’t like. In the end, however, we agreed that it was emotionally compelling.  Yes, we all cried. Some of us, a lot.

The Synopsis (available at GoodReads)

A grumpy yet loveable man finds his solitary world turned on its head when a boisterous young family moves in next door.

Meet Ove. He’s a curmudgeon, the kind of man who points at people he dislikes as if they were burglars caught outside his bedroom window. He has staunch principles, strict routines, and a short fuse. People call him the bitter neighbor from hell, but must Ove be bitter just because he doesn’t walk around with a smile plastered to his face all the time?

Behind the cranky exterior there is a story and a sadness. So when one November morning a chatty young couple with two chatty young daughters move in next door and accidentally flatten Ove’s mailbox, it is the lead-in to a comical and heartwarming tale of unkempt cats, unexpected friendship, and the ancient art of backing up a U-Haul. All of which will change one cranky old man and a local residents’ association to their very foundations.

The Review

I described A Man Called Ove this way – I disliked the beginning, but I liked the book.  All club members agreed that the beginning of the book, about the first six chapters, dwelled too heavily on the main character’s grumpy disposition. By chapter three I wanted to scream, OK I’ve got it, he’s a grouch, move on already.

I also found the premise of the story to be generally off-putting. I won’t give it away, but Ove’s mission throughout the novel was disturbing.

On a positive note, I enjoyed the writing. The way Backman struck so many emotionally chords was well done to say the least.  Personally, I connected with Ove’s struggle to rediscover purpose in his life.  I feel I am in the same boat with regard to my work and future.

I thought certain lines were beautifully written. For example:

“When she giggles she sounded the way Ove imagined champagne bubbles would have sounded if they were capable of laughter.”

“She stood…with his flowers…in that red cardigan of hers, making the rest of the world look as if it were made in grayscale.”

“He was a man of black and white. And she was of color. All the color he had.”

And this one made me laugh:

“The man behind the Plexiglas asks if he can “check out the card.” Ove looks at him as if they just met in a dark alley and he’s asked to “check out” Ove’s private parts.”

I am glad I read A Man Called Ove. I would recommend it with one caveat – it’s not for everyone. While it was clever at times, there were also some very predictable outcomes that I anticipated well before they happened.

So, I’ll say it was not bad, but not great.

Next up in March…

I am actually looking forward to reading a type of book I never have… a celebrity tell-all!

Leah Remini’s – Troublemaker – Surviving Hollywood and Scientology.

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New Year’s Resolutions – Love Them or Hate Them?

2017 new years' resolutions notebook and champagne glasses

I love New Year’s resolutions. I know a lot of people who don’t and I get that too, but I like starting a new year off fresh and with purpose. Personally, I find the exercise of making a resolution to be valuable.

Mind you, my New Year’s resolutions have nothing to do with weight loss, money or bad habits. Rather, I try to identify some trait within myself that I know needs work. I find that when I take a personal inventory and articulate a goal, in resolution form, it takes on more meaning and allows me to set my mind toward achieving that goal in a much more resolute manner.

It’s kind of like; the first step is admitting you have a problem. Once I acknowledge whatever my most egregious character flaw is at the time, it is easier to overcome. For me, it’s about personal growth, development and becoming a better person. But clearly this doesn’t come easy seeing I’ve been at this resolution making approach since 2005.

So, what kind of New Year’s resolutions am I talking about?

I won’t bore you with all of them, but here are a few of my favorites.

2006 – Make No Apologies

I committed to “make no apologies.” I often found myself saying sorry for things that either I wasn’t sorry for or weren’t my fault in the first place.  For example, someone might harshly bump into me on the street and I’d say “Oh sorry” as they proceeded rudely on their way. The only thing I found more annoying than the jerk that ran into me, was me saying I’m sorry for their mistake.  I’m happy to say, I no longer do that.

2011 – Less Is More

I declared that “less is more” and I absolutely love living by that motto. No more overbooking myself or overscheduling the kids. Now, if I can’t or don’t want to do something, I politely decline and forget about the FOMO (fear of missing out.)

2014 – Don’t Dwell In The Past

I told myself “don’t dwell in the past.” That was a good one as I can be a bit of a grudge holder.  When I realized how much energy I wasted on things that were out of my control, done and over with, I knew I needed to get a grip and move on. I like the saying, “look where you’re going, not where you’ve been!”

Now, here we are in 2017. This year I’ve decided to “stop second guessing myself.” There were a lot of changes in 2016. Those that affected me personally and professionally left me angst ridden; wondering if I’d made the best decisions. But now, rather than question my choices, I embrace them.

With this New Year’s resolution in place, I have clarity and enthusiasm for what’s to come in 2017.

For me, resolutions are helpful. Have you made a New Year’s resolution? How do you feel about them?

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Get Organized – The Gift That Keeps Giving

organized spice drawer
This makes me happy. I want my house and life to be like a neat and tidy spice drawer.

 

Happy New Year!

First of All – Happy New Year! It is 2017 and I feel a great year coming our way. The fresh start of a new year is one of my favorite things, but the weeks leading up to it are always so harried.

I don’t think I am ever more disorganized than at Christmas time. I can never seem to keep the lists, gifts, receipts, cards and groceries straight. Every year, my otherwise tidy house turns into a stockpile of stuff.

As much as I love getting in the spirit with Christmas decorations, I would say they are the very thing that set the frantic and disorderly train in motion. The Christmas clutter makes it impossible to get organized during the holiday season; no matter how hard I try.

The Day After Christmas

While some people experience a sense of letdown the day after Christmas; I rejoice in it. It’s the day I can finally get organized after weeks of disarray. The surge of satisfaction that comes from every item I put away rivals that of the best gift I opened. This year, the days following Christmas were particularly productive.

Get Organized

Decorations came down faster than ever before and undoing Christmas was just the beginning.  The initial ripple of Christmas clean-up quickly turned into a tidal wave as my desire to get organized extended well beyond holiday décor. If you know me, my house is generally picked up, but it’s everything I’ve crammed into drawers, cabinets and closets that’s my dirty little secret.

Since Christmas, I’ve cleaned out and organized my makeup, the sports bottle shelf (seriously, does any one family need so many sports bottles), my bathroom cabinets, the food pantry and dish cabinets, the refrigerator, the plasticware drawer, the junk drawer, my inbox, my jewelry (I’ve since discovered I’ve lost half of two sets of earrings) and three miscellaneous kitchen cabinets.

With everything I organized I felt better and more energized to move on to the next thing. It’s feels so good!

When I get organized in my home, it always helps me get organized in life. It gives me clarity and focus and with 2017 ahead of us, I could use a strong start.

Start Small

If you’re feeling like a clean out is in order, but don’t know where to start – start small and carve out a manageable window of time that is not overwhelming. Pick one room, one drawer, one container that needs attention and go from there. Empty it completely, purge what you don’t use and then put everything else back in an orderly fashion.

You may not find it fun, like I do, but once it’s done you’ll be so glad you did it.

May 2017 Bring You All The Best!

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Holiday Books – Good for the Soul: A Guest Blog

five holiday books suggested by Karla Kittler

Hello and Happy Monday!

I am excited to present today’s guest post by my sister, Karla Kittler. Karla is an educator by trade and currently the Program Coordinator of Ohrstrom Library at St. Paul’s School in Concord, NH. When Karla first began working in what I like to call, the Library Arts, her teaching talents truly shined. She has turned her knowledge and passion for reading and books into an art form. Just look at this adorable book sculpture.

 

Snowman sculpture made of books

When she suggested I post about great holiday books, I said. “Absolutely, but let’s hear it from you!”

Karla’s Favorite Holiday Books

The Holiday frenzy is upon us. The countdown has begun and we are hustling and bustling to check everything off our to do lists. Wouldn’t it be nice to take some time to relax and enjoy the season? Did you know that reading for as little as six minutes a day can reduce stress by 60 percent, slow heartbeat, ease tension and alter your state of mind? Treat yourself to a few minutes each day with a holiday story that soothes your mind and soul. Here are five of my favorite holiday books. They are quick reads and will help you remember the true meaning of Christmas.

A Redbird Christmas by Fannie Flagg – A classic holiday tale set in small town America where good things happen to good people.

Skipping Christmas by John Grisham – In this modern day holiday story the reader is offered an entertaining look at the chaos that has become part of our holiday tradition.

The Precious Present by Spencer Johnson- If you’re stumped with what to get someone on your list, consider The Precious Present. It’s appropriate for men and women, teenagers and adults, avid and reluctant readers. I was introduced to this book by my brother in law who told me “This book really moved me and you can read it in its entirety while in the bathroom!” Unlike all the other males in our family, I choose not to read in the bathroom. That being said, this book is a very quick read and helps the reader keep their eye on the ball during the busy holiday season.

Winter Street, Winter Stroll & Winter Storm (a trilogy) by Elin Hilderbrand – For those of you familiar with the author, she often writes about her beloved Nantucket. If you’ve been lucky enough to visit the island, you will feel its charm while reading as you enter the realm of Nantucket during the holidays.

The 13th Day of Christmas by Jason F. Wright – A quick read with a powerful message. This is a story of hope and faith in the most challenging of times.

No time for a good read?

If you don’t feel like reading a book, how about listening to a book? Most of the holiday books above are available in audio format. I love listening to a book on my daily commute. It makes the time fly by and I get more reading time in.

Not a fan of holiday books?

Even if you’re not into holiday stories, pick up something, anything and read a little each day. It will do your body and mind good!

Happy Holidays!

Karla Kittler
Program Coordinator
Ohrstrom Library
St. Paul’s School
Concord, NH.

*Be sure to check out your local library for these and many other great titles.

Thank You

Thank you Karla, The Precious Present is one of my all-time favorites too and yes, the brother-in-law Karla speaks of is Tony. I look forward to picking up one of Karla’s other selections over Christmas break and I may even stop into my local book store to purchase a title or two as last minute Christmas gifts. Yes, I’m still shopping.

Have a great week everyone.

 

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Fun Things to do in LA – A Quick Trip

 

Fun Things to do in LA - Hollywood sign, hollywood walk of fame, santa monica pier, beverly hills sign

There are so many fun things to do in LA, it’s hard to know where to begin. If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I took a short trip to sunny Los Angeles, CA last week. If you don’t follow me, check out 3 Olives and a Twist  for a look at pretty things, yummy things, thoughtful things and happy things – I’m a little obsessed with Instagram lately!

In the short time I was there with Tony, Julia and Ally, the LA attractions we experienced left us wanting more. So much so, Ally reported she’d like to go to college in LA. Gulp, oh no! Too far, my girl, too far!

But I get it. The energy in LA is intoxicating and the weather quite nice. During our stay, the days were warm while the nights a bit cooler than expected.  We didn’t quite pack appropriately, but nothing a quick shop at LA’s cool outdoor mall, The Grove, couldn’t solve. Note to self – if ever I go back in fall, remember that Southern Californians wear boots and sweaters just like we do in the Northeast.  I can leave the flip flops at home.

Fun Things to do in LA

While living the LA life, we took in classic Los Angeles sightseeing destinations like the Hollywood Sign, the Walk of Fame, Rodeo Drive, the Santa Monica Pier and, yes, I dragged my whole family to Sur Restaurant for my second visit there.

SUR Restaurant

Sur is the West Hollywood hot spot where my guilty pleasure reality show “Vanderpump Rules” takes place. I know I’m way too old to watch this show, but I’m hooked – I’m sorry, I just can’t look away! To be expected, I saw no “big names” but I did spy a few second and third tier characters who’ve had recurring appearances. Sur’s co-owner Guillermo was there, Lisa Vanderpump’s son Max was busy bussing tables and Stassi’s frequently featured friend, Christine was waiting tables as usual.

A quick ask of our waitress about her desire to be on the show and she replied, “No way – I have no interest in all that drama.” So why the heck work there? I wondered. While I do think the scene at Sur was a little mature for my girls, it was an interesting experience and the food was actually good.

The Ivy Restaurant

Not as good as The Ivy Restaurant where we ate the night before, but good nonetheless. The Ivy came highly recommended by our hotel concierge. Considered an LA landmark, it’s a buzzing and beautiful little spot, also in West Hollywood, where the ambiance actually outdid the food. We were greeted by gracious waiters wearing brightly colored floral neck ties who handed us flutes of champagne (strawberry spritzers for the girls) as we entered. We were seated at an outdoor table with a big bouquet of beautiful pink and yellow roses that matched the staff’s neckties and the colorful lights that surrounded the entryway. Everything about the place was so pretty, charming and cheery. If we were going to see a celebrity it was going to happen here for sure…it didn’t! Despite the fact that The Ivy is a known celebrity hangout we somehow managed to, again, see no one.

Go See a Lakers Game

 

A Lakers Game is a fun thing to do in LA
The Lakers vs. The Bulls at the Staples Center

 

We did, however, manage to see one celebrity when we attended The Lakers game.  While we were hoping for Jack Nicholson, Ashton and Mila or Rihanna, we ended up with Jay Mohr. Although, Julia and Ally had no idea who he was, I was happy enough to at least see someone I knew from the small screen.  Oddly, just before we left for LA I had randomly watched Suicide Kings starring Mohr. Weird, seeing that’s not something I would typically watch.

Jay Mohr aside – The Lakers game was a highlight of our trip. I never would have thought to go to a sporting event, but it turned out to be a great time. We had good seats, it was a good game and even the Laker Girls were entertaining.

Walk the Malibu Pier

In addition to the Santa Monica Pier, we also stopped off at the Malibu Pier. I was glad we strolled to the end because there we found the cutest gift shop called the Malibu Beach Supply Co. With not much else to do, I could have poked around this little shop for hours.

Malibu Beach Supply Co. - plants, oranges, mini VW buses, home decor
The Malibu Beach Supply Co. had so many great things from toys to home decor

Fun Things to Do in LA – Instagram Inspirations

While in Santa Monica, Ally suggested we track down a restaurant where pasta is prepared in a hollowed out wheel of cheese. I had just seen a video for this on Instagram – I was excited to see it firsthand. Forma Restaurant and Cheese Bar was located in a quaint, bustling downtown area. Side streets were full of adorable homes with distinct architecture, sidewalk cafes were full and we thoroughly enjoyed this little stop off our beaten path.  Both the pasta and the jaunt through the shops were a treat.

Forma Restaurant and Cheese Bar, a Santa Monica home, I got my wings! CottonHi
Forma Restaurant and Cheese Bar, and a unique Santa Monica home. I got my wings!… and Tiramisu ice cream with chocolate cotton candy from CottonHi.

 

Also seen on Instagram, Julia had us find one of several locations throughout the City of Angels where artful wings are painted on sides of buildings – perfect for picture taking purposes. We also found a specialty dessert spot, as seen on Instagram, in Koreatown and enjoyed cool cotton candy confections courtesy of CottonHi. Yum!

I loved discovering these unexpected spots on our own.

Tour Warner Brother’s Studio

And the last of our many fun things to do in LA was a tour of Warner Brother’s Studio. This was fun on so many levels. We got to see sets, backlots, soundstages, the most enormous prop house imaginable and sit on the Friends couch at Central Perk. I asked the girls if seeing how television shows and movies are actually made behind the scenes took away from the “magic” that is Hollywood. Gladly, they said no and felt the inside scoop made it all even more appealing.

set of friends' central perk
Ally, Julia and Me on the Friends couch in Central Perk

 

This was a great time of year to get away before the craziness of the holiday season. In just four short days, we saw so much – I couldn’t even chronicle all of it in one post.  I’m so glad we did it and can’t wait for my next chance to go back to explore even more fun things to do in LA. Fingers crossed it won’t be for a college tour.

I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving break! It’s good to be back and looking forward to the excitement of the holiday season.

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